tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18155604.post6696064759965315578..comments2023-10-17T10:21:11.698-06:00Comments on The Clutter Museum: Look! It's an actual substantive post!Leslie M-Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02434392840359276805noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18155604.post-81968409040873580972007-02-16T20:33:00.000-07:002007-02-16T20:33:00.000-07:00My mom cleans every time she comes down to our pla...My mom cleans every time she comes down to our place too. She especially likes cleaning the kitchen sink. I finally decided to appreciate it, since she's the only one who can manage to get the darn thing back to "almost white." Now it's become a joke - I've told her she has to come down and see us because our sink needs cleaning.<BR/><BR/>Now Dad, he comes down and washes dishes after we eat, but he only washes with a dish rag, so we've got the "Dad's Dishrags" collection in one corner of the cupboard.<BR/><BR/>To each her own eccentricities...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18155604.post-57056218178962060462007-02-15T10:27:00.000-07:002007-02-15T10:27:00.000-07:00It is hard to manage these sorts of things.Assumin...It is hard to manage these sorts of things.<BR/><BR/>Assuming your mom is as wonderful as she seems, she probably really is concerned. Perhaps it would be helpful to do a couple of things -- First... let her clean. It lets her see some concrete way she's improved your life. It is more than likely that her cleaning isn't intended as a criticism. I'd guess that her daily schedule was much less hectic than your own, and thus you have less time to keep house than she did. <BR/><BR/>In terms of finances and weight -- when the topic comes up let her know gently, but in no uncertain terms that you have learned the lessons she'd like to teach you and that having these discussions without the ability to instantly solve the problem does nothing but make life stressful for you. For many people, stress makes them eat and/or spend money, which puts you back a step.<BR/><BR/>Then, tell her what you've been doing to work your way out of debt and perhaps what you've been doing to get a bit more exercise and let her know that if and when you need her advise on the next step you'll be sure to let her know. <BR/><BR/>This isn't intended to start a fight or even a discussion.. rather it is taking a very adult-to-adult step of limiting what is or is not her business.<BR/><BR/>or... I could be totally wrong and talking out of my backside-- but, if I had these issues with my mom, this is how I'd handle it. Unconditional love doesn't ential unconditional involvement in your personal life..Inside the Philosophy Factoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12255753259090709877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18155604.post-86346726398785306552007-02-12T15:54:00.000-07:002007-02-12T15:54:00.000-07:00It's especially hard to turn off the communication...It's especially hard to turn off the communication about finances while you owe someone money, isn't it.<BR/><BR/>My Mom finally gave up on the make-up thing!<BR/><BR/>Housekeeping, well, she does tend to want to clean things up a bit when she visits, but I've learned not to take it personally. I think that was a big step for me, and we're balancing things better all the time.<BR/><BR/>It's really great to hear about good relationships in blogs :)Bardiachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11846065504793800266noreply@blogger.com